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Are You Holding Yourself Back?

Are You Holding Yourself Back?

Recently a friend of mine had a tire blow out and waited on the side of the road for nearly three hours for roadside assistance. After help arrived, he was told that not only could he have changed the tire himself, he had every tool in his car needed to repair it. And sometimes that’s how life is; in many instances, we already have everything we need to accomplish whatever is in our hearts.

Frequently, we think following our dreams takes tons of money, materials, and supplies. And while it’s true that it takes those things to further grow our dreams, simply starting, takes what we already have inside of us. Things like determination, confidence, and enthusiasm are characteristics that most of us internally possess that can turn dreams into realities.  Being afraid to start that business, create that product, or write that book because we don’t have all of our ducks in a row is counterproductive because sometimes we will NEVER have all we need to drastically change our lives. Learning to self-assess and become more self-aware about what it truly takes to be successful and determining whether or not you possess those qualities, can be life-changing.


Discovering that within me were all of the tools I needed to begin turning my dreams into realities was refreshingly scary. It was refreshing to learn that application of my natural gifts along with hard work and willingness to try new things could get me closer to my goals; it was scary for the exact same reasons. It can be frightening to step into new realms; it forces you to be accountable for your success, and your failures. Acknowledging that our complacency and stagnation is contributing our lack of progress as much as our lack of resources or opportunities is a hard pill to swallow.


Too often we blame our stagnation on outside forces when there are steps we can take to accomplish our goals. For example, if you want to start a business but don’t have the funding you need to jumpstart, acknowledge that you can spend time networking and learning from successful business owners. Most times, walking into our purpose takes taking steps that expose us and make us feel vulnerable. Using positive characteristics that are within us such as fearlessness, initiative, and charisma, we can take pride in knowing feeling exposed in the present will be worthwhile in the future.


I’ve seen this very concept come to fruition in small areas of my life. I decided to stop using excuses such as not having the same chances as those whose success I admire and simply started doing what it was I wanted to be successful in, which is writing.  I’ve gotten positive feedback, encouragement, and when I finally stopped holding myself back, I gained opportunities that I would have otherwise missed out on. I’m learning each day in my life and in the lives of those around me that no matter how small or grand your goals are, you already have most of what you need to be prosperous; integrity, passion, patience, willpower, ambition, and an innate drive to succeed.

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