In honor of Women’s History Month, we’re releasing our “What I’m Reading” interview with local boss babe, Cynthea Corfah. Cynthea is a staff writer at 225 Magazine, the creator of women’s brunch and mixer, Brunch for the Soul, and a freelance model. She received her Bachelor’s degree in print journalism from Louisiana State University in 2017. Since then, she has kicked off her career with various roles in the local fashion, media and creative industry.
What 2 books did you choose and what do they mean to you?
I chose “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero and then the other one is “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F***.”
“You Are A Badass” was like my second self-help book that I ever read, and it was just really upfront. I love her (Sincero’s) style of writing. So I mean, the title is already called “You Are A Badass”, so she comes out talking to you like that–making you believe you’d be crazy for ever doubting yourself. She gives you all kinds of tips and hints through bullet points and notes.The book just really encouraged me, because it was like everyday I have something to read that would motivate me daily some little bit of help of motivation every single day, so I would definitely recommend everyone read that one daily. It’s a good book, you won’t really want to put it down.
Preview the first three pages of “You Are A Badass” pictured above, courtesy of Amazon.
Then the other one, “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F***” is also really good because it’s for people who are people pleasers or overthinkers. The author helps you unlearn all the things that you’ve been taught. He helps you to basically make yourself think a different way and to live unapologetically and live out loud.
How do you apply these books to your everyday life?
Since reading those books, I just overthink less, or at least I try to. I am more unapologetic and fearless. A common theme for both of those books is fear. When people are afraid of something, nothing gets done. So I feel like I’m starting to live with less fear and I have a different approach to live more. There’s just no excuses anymore, with all of the things that could have been in your way, or at least in your head.
If you were to suggest this book to a friend, how would you sell it?
I would say read this book if you are filled with fear and if you don’t know what steps to take it or if you have any self-doubt I will recommend the “You Are A Badass” book because it’ll help you put all that stuff aside and see where your talents lie and it’ll even give you some tips for doing yoga.
For “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F***,” start with an open mind when you read it, and be ready to have your mind changed along with your approach to life. It’s almost as if he writes it in a negative way. He’s trying to shake you up and see how crazy people are and saying we are our biggest doubters and he’s just trying to get you outside of your head and make you think. There’s even a chapter about death so it gets extremely dark. At the end of the book, you’re like “Damn, Am I living?” Then if you’re afraid of death, you’re afraid of living. I would just say start with an open mind and prepare to have some of your ideas changed in the best way possible. “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***” it’s like a slap in the face.
My junior year of college, I started with girlboss and then I went to “You Are A Badass” and I just kept diving in because I left all the self-help books from there. Then I read “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***” within my first few months of post-college life, so it was perfect timing perfect
I would say both men and women can read “You Are A Badass”, but personally, I realize it’s easier to relate to a female writer and so I would definitely recommend it to women. Men can benefit from it as well. I told my boyfriend to read it too and he enjoyed it. “The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F***” is definitely more relatable to men than “You Are A Badass” because he’s so funny. I feel like a lot of guys stay away from self-help books because is too preachy it makes a really funny to wear it’s great.